Dealing with Hate from Family & Social Media

     Showcasing your relationship and life on social media is hard. You're giving people a small glimpse into your life. By doing so, people will be over critical of anything you post. When we started social media, we didn't expect to gain a following. I had posted a cute video thinking nothing of it, and by morning we had 25,000 followers. To go from sharing your life with friends to now strangers on the internet, it's a big leap.

       Our views on social media differ depending on the day. Most days, we absolutely love the community we've created. There are so many amazing people who support us, and we're thankful for that. The amount of friends we have gained through social media is truly amazing. Slowly we've gained more of a following, and with more followers means more hate. Some of those people will love you, and some will really hate you. I'll be completely honest, some of the hate comments really hurt. To have people wish ill upon you when they don't know you is baffling.  Having strong boundaries and thick skin is important when being in the public eye. You have to know in your heart who you are and what your intentions are. If I didn't know and trust that my intentions are pure and respectful, I'd be drowning in hate comments. People will always say that I'm trying to make Aary's culture mine, and I could waste my day arguing with them, but I don't. I am confident in my intentions, feelings, and heart. 

    It doesn't matter the culture or color of your skin, people will always find a reason not to support you. People that spend all day hating on others are deeply insecure. They have to find a way to validate their insecurities, and social media is accessible to help them do that. No matter what you do, there will always be people watching your every move, hoping you fail. It's hard to stay true to yourself, but that's the only thing that has kept us going. Aary and I are kind people who spread love and acceptance. If we let other people dictate our feelings and actions, we wouldn't have the platform we do. Knowing in your heart that not everyone has to like you is hard, but very important.

    When you don't have people supporting you in real life, and then it's even worse on social media, it has an impact on your health. I'll admit that I've had a few breakdowns because the hate from our families and social media can intercross and be painful. You can't have good people in your life without a few bad ones, just like you can't have good days without a few bad ones. My advice would be this, you know yourself better than anyone else. Stay true to yourself & your intentions. You have no control over who likes you and who doesn't, so why change for someone if you're happy?