Meeting the parents..

    The question I’ve been asked most since dating Aary has been “do his parents approve of you”? In all honesty, I can’t tell you if they approve of me or not. My relationship with his parents has been up and down. For the first few months it was great, and then it all changed. Today, I want to share with you how I met his parents, and how the first few months went.

    On my second trip to Los Angeles, Aary and I decided to do a little staycation and get a hotel room for a week. Coincidentally, the same week I had come to visit him, so had his parents. Aary’s parents live part -time in multiple places, but they’re often in LA. Aary and I enjoyed the first few days of my trip by sightseeing and exploring the city. One afternoon, his mother called him and invited us over for lunch. Aary was extremely hesitant to introduce me to his parents, but I was so excited! His parents are successful in business, they adore their two sons, and they had the ideal family in my opinion. Some background information on my family before we continue. My father is not in my life, and I have always hoped that my future father-in-law would fill that void in my heart. My mother is amazing and I adore her; however she hates beauty and fashion, so I never had a mother figure that would help me with my hair or makeup, or get pedicures with me. Aary knew that I needed to meet his parents despite how nervous he was, so we joined them for lunch. 

    We drove to their place and had a barbecue together. I’ll be honest with you guys, it went really, really well. His mother and I were talking about the similarities in our childhoods while talking about how much we love Aary. His dad and I have very similar personalities, so we were making jokes throughout the afternoon. There were several comments made throughout where I started to realize that we may have some issues in the future. Comments such as “we wish he would date inside his culture”, or “it is so important that Aary stays Indian and never becomes American/Westernized”. When we all went our separate ways, we all had an understanding that it was a nice time, and I believe we were all hopeful for the future. Throughout the next few months, I would see his parents for a few dinners here and there, and things were still going relatively well. There was a mutual respect between the four of us, and we were very optimistic. 

            However, very quickly things started to change and issues started to arise.